Weight Loss Diaries Vol. 13 : Is your weight making you unhappy?


Hey everyone!

Hope you all had a good week. Today I want to talk about a topic that hasn’t previously been talked about much in this feature- coming to terms with your body. Or more accurately, approaching weight issues with with a peaceful state of mind.


The Weight Loss Diaries
The Weight Loss Diaries


Is your weight making you unhappy
Is your weight making you unhappy?


For those who have weight issues, who tend to put on weight easily, who find themselves struggling to lose weight over and over, it can become a source of anguish and mental turmoil. We start feeling envious of those who seem to eat to their heart’s content and don’t put on, we began resenting the people in our lives who push us to take control of our bodies, we are constantly in that state where we want sympathy for not being able to eat what we want. I never realized how important food was for my emotional well being till I had to cut back on foods to lose weight.




But over the years, I’m coming to terms with how my body works. And this is something everyone with weight issues needs to understand to be able to be at peace with who you are.


  • Eating right needs to be a lifelong commitment if you want to stay fit.
  • You need to accept that your body cannot metabolize the calories you eat as quickly as you want to satiate your taste buds.
  • You cannot go to a more ‘normal’ lifestyle once you’ve lost weight.
  • You need to redefine what is normal for your body, try to incorporate tasty foods in your diet which are healthy but satisfying.
  • You need to be smart and enterprising to build a healthy relationship with food and your body.


I know we all put deadlines on how much we want to lose in a specific period of time, may be for a special occasion like a wedding. But deep down, we need to understand that being fit and healthy cannot be a 3-month or 6-month affair. And I know this because I’ve been there. I lost a lot of weight, reached my dream figure and then it all crept back because I did not make that commitment to my body. Yes it is unfair that you put on weight even with eating just 2 rotis, it is unfair that you cannot eat that chocolate, that cookie, that plate of pakoras when so many others can. But at the end of the day, its your body. You need to live with it for the rest of your life.

I used to approach my weight loss as a timebound thing. And when I say this, I’m not saying I did not have goals. We NEED goals to stay focused and motivated. But it is the emotional and mental aspect of the time bound weight loss that can really take on toll on one’s spirits. If you feel like your life is at a standstill till you can lose weight, or that you cannot be happy till you lose weight – you know exactly what I’m talking about. And you need to find your way around it because nothing will change drastically once you reach your dream weight, you will still need to continue with whatever you are doing right now to maintain it. Happiness is really a state of mind, nothing else!

I know this is a topic I could go on for another 500 words, but I think I’ve made my point here. I know how hard it is to lose weight, how much HARDER it is to maintain weight and most of all, how hard it is to be happy about your body. For those really enjoy their food, it takes years and years to build a healthy relationship but it definitely gets easier over time. All you need is patience and most importantly, discipline.

At the outset, you need to bring in acceptance for the lifestyle you need to maintain FOR LIFE to be happy with your body and your looks. Next, you need to be smart about your food- if you know your body cannot process the foods you have been eating all this time or what everyone else is eating without putting on, you need to find new foods that will satisfy you without being too calorie-rich. You also need to invest some time reading some good books that approach Weight loss, maintenance and food in a healthy way. I would recommend Rujuta Diwekar‘s 2 books, I think every woman – overweight or not, should read these. Not just once, but over and over till it gets drilled into your mind!

[note color=”#FFE4C4″]If you’ve been feeling low about your weight issue, I hope this post helped you out in some way! If you want to share something about your weight loss journey, you’re always welcome to leave a comment below or mail me at ankita@corallista.com. [/note]



  1. Well said ankita…i too achieved my dream weight and figure…n everybody starts complimenting but after that I was again eating my fav foods thinking that now I m lean,i can eat anything…this thought made me fat again…n that was so so depressing…now I have realised achieving is not tough but maintaining that achievement is a big question..!!
    I m again working on my body n this time will not try to do any mistake n have to be very patient..!!
    By the way u r doing great job….n heartiest congratulations for ur Dove Ad…u look beautiful and elegant but I wished there was little more makeup…but you rock n like ur confidence…I must say you are so cute and adorable 🙂 😉

  2. I think that while commitment to exercise and eating right is very important, it is more important to be realistic about the weight/size we want to be. We’re not all meant to be as thin as runway models and aspiring for that will just leave us feeling angry and frustrated. You may be able to achieve your ideal weight with extreme exercise and strict dieting but it won’t last if your body type isn’t naturally suited for that ultra-thin look. It is a difficult truth to accept but the faster you embrace it, the happier you’ll be with your body 🙂

  3. Wonderful article Ankita….im sure this post is going to help and inspire loads of girls.
    Iwas always very happy and content with my weight and my super slim body till I put on a few kilos post two babies. And now, though I’m not as skinny as before, I love my body coz its given me two adorable angels. I guess being a hands on, sometimes hyper mom of two boys has helped me maintain a nice figure coz I simply can’t diet….I’m a total chocoholic!!!

  4. oh ankita… u know at one point i became so uncomfortable tht i withdrew from all the normal activites like going to parties, meeting ppl, making friends, meeting old friends, attending weddings…etc..
    this post did help me a little…i m trying to build my confidence back.

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