Hope you all had a good week. Today I want to talk about a topic that hasn’t previously been talked about much in this feature- coming to terms with your body. Or more accurately, approaching weight issues with with a peaceful state of mind.
For those who have weight issues, who tend to put on weight easily, who find themselves struggling to lose weight over and over, it can become a source of anguish and mental turmoil. We start feeling envious of those who seem to eat to their heart’s content and don’t put on, we began resenting the people in our lives who push us to take control of our bodies, we are constantly in that state where we want sympathy for not being able to eat what we want. I never realized how important food was for my emotional well being till I had to cut back on foods to lose weight.
But over the years, I’m coming to terms with how my body works. And this is something everyone with weight issues needs to understand to be able to be at peace with who you are.
- Eating right needs to be a lifelong commitment if you want to stay fit.
- You need to accept that your body cannot metabolize the calories you eat as quickly as you want to satiate your taste buds.
- You cannot go to a more ‘normal’ lifestyle once you’ve lost weight.
- You need to redefine what is normal for your body, try to incorporate tasty foods in your diet which are healthy but satisfying.
- You need to be smart and enterprising to build a healthy relationship with food and your body.
I know we all put deadlines on how much we want to lose in a specific period of time, may be for a special occasion like a wedding. But deep down, we need to understand that being fit and healthy cannot be a 3-month or 6-month affair. And I know this because I’ve been there. I lost a lot of weight, reached my dream figure and then it all crept back because I did not make that commitment to my body. Yes it is unfair that you put on weight even with eating just 2 rotis, it is unfair that you cannot eat that chocolate, that cookie, that plate of pakoras when so many others can. But at the end of the day, its your body. You need to live with it for the rest of your life.
I used to approach my weight loss as a time–bound thing. And when I say this, I’m not saying I did not have goals. We NEED goals to stay focused and motivated. But it is the emotional and mental aspect of the time bound weight loss that can really take on toll on one’s spirits. If you feel like your life is at a standstill till you can lose weight, or that you cannot be happy till you lose weight – you know exactly what I’m talking about. And you need to find your way around it because nothing will change drastically once you reach your dream weight, you will still need to continue with whatever you are doing right now to maintain it. Happiness is really a state of mind, nothing else!
I know this is a topic I could go on for another 500 words, but I think I’ve made my point here. I know how hard it is to lose weight, how much HARDER it is to maintain weight and most of all, how hard it is to be happy about your body. For those really enjoy their food, it takes years and years to build a healthy relationship but it definitely gets easier over time. All you need is patience and most importantly, discipline.
At the outset, you need to bring in acceptance for the lifestyle you need to maintain FOR LIFE to be happy with your body and your looks. Next, you need to be smart about your food- if you know your body cannot process the foods you have been eating all this time or what everyone else is eating without putting on, you need to find new foods that will satisfy you without being too calorie-rich. You also need to invest some time reading some good books that approach Weight loss, maintenance and food in a healthy way. I would recommend Rujuta Diwekar‘s 2 books, I think every woman – overweight or not, should read these. Not just once, but over and over till it gets drilled into your mind!